"Hello stranger.."
That dreaded text message.
Or maybe a small flicker of hope and a stomach full of knots if you are the sender?
In my 23 years of life, I've been both the recipient and the sender - don't laugh, I know we've all been there!
Okay so let me get straight to the point..
The girl in the above situation is me, but I think everyone, whether boy or girl, can relate to similar.
I am finally trusting God with the direction I believe He is taking with my life.
I no longer continuously feel as if I need someone/something (whether friendship, relationship, degree, job etc.) to make me happy.
Some days are admittedly harder than others, but overall I'm happy just "being". Being in my own presence, Gods presence and the presence of others, if I chose to be.
I do wish though (like everyone does right?) that I had a significant other.
Not someone who brings confusion, like the above scenario, but someone who brings peace of mind, prosperity, purpose and joy.
Nor something based on physical attraction or lust alone, because life is a rollercoaster and there will be triumphs and failures along the way. I'd rather be with someone, who in the good times AND bad times, will give me peace of mind and calmness throughout and not just a handsome face or a nice body.
When it's someone who brings nothing but confusion, it throws you off your life course.
The bible says that God is love.
God isn't a God of confusion, but of clarity and peace. When someone who is in your life doesn't bring those things, it signifies to me that they are not for you.
If God is love and He says that He made man in His image, (Genesis 1:27), why would He give you someone who is the complete opposite of Him?
For example, in my above scenario, every time I messaged him and he didn't reply it confused and distracted me because I thought it was something else, when clearly, it wasn't.
I learnt and am still learning to give every situation to God and to then be okay with the outcome - whether it is the outcome I wanted, didn't want or didn't expect.
God knew me before I was born, He knew the plan He had for my life and who He wanted in my life so I can't be upset or angry if someone leaves or never arrives.
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
-Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
I have a four stage strategy that I follow which I learnt from Pastor Toure Roberts (One Stop Church LA) about how valuable my "Yes" is.
My "Yes" to both people who I am inviting into my life and also to places/events I've been invited too. I try my hardest to not say yes to everything immediately and to ask myself these four questions first:
So before you allow yet another bundle of confusion and stress to roll his or her way into your life, mess everything up and then just leave. Ask yourself those four important questions!
If you're anything like me and think that attractiveness, good conversation and a good dress sense is enough to qualify your yes.. STOP! It's more than just that!
Does he/she input into you - spiritually, financially, physically? Can he/she speak life into you? Where is he/she headed, is their future something you want to be apart of? Are your present/future purposes in alignment?
If the answer to any of these is no, and like me you are just a ball confusion, then it may be time to re-evaluate the "ship"!
So, here is to complete peace, clarity and less confusion.
"For God is not a God of disorder but of peace-"
-1 Corinthians 14:33 (NIV)
Stay blessed,
Chid
x
That dreaded text message.
Or maybe a small flicker of hope and a stomach full of knots if you are the sender?
In my 23 years of life, I've been both the recipient and the sender - don't laugh, I know we've all been there!
Okay so let me get straight to the point..
- Boy meets girl/girl meets boy
- They exchange numbers and gradually build up some sort of "ship" - friendship, relationship, casualship lol you get the picture.
- Boy disappears (how unoriginal!) girl is upset but gets over it. Such is life.
- Boy/girl pop back into each others lives. The "ship" situation reoccurs. Kind of/almost.
- Boy goes on holiday, boy disappears (again lol) girl is upset, girl deletes boy from every form of social media (ha typical!)
- Girl gets on with life
- Months later she messages boy to apologise/clear the air, all is well - life goes on.
The girl in the above situation is me, but I think everyone, whether boy or girl, can relate to similar.
I am finally trusting God with the direction I believe He is taking with my life.
I no longer continuously feel as if I need someone/something (whether friendship, relationship, degree, job etc.) to make me happy.
Some days are admittedly harder than others, but overall I'm happy just "being". Being in my own presence, Gods presence and the presence of others, if I chose to be.
I do wish though (like everyone does right?) that I had a significant other.
Not someone who brings confusion, like the above scenario, but someone who brings peace of mind, prosperity, purpose and joy.
Nor something based on physical attraction or lust alone, because life is a rollercoaster and there will be triumphs and failures along the way. I'd rather be with someone, who in the good times AND bad times, will give me peace of mind and calmness throughout and not just a handsome face or a nice body.
When it's someone who brings nothing but confusion, it throws you off your life course.
The bible says that God is love.
God isn't a God of confusion, but of clarity and peace. When someone who is in your life doesn't bring those things, it signifies to me that they are not for you.
If God is love and He says that He made man in His image, (Genesis 1:27), why would He give you someone who is the complete opposite of Him?
For example, in my above scenario, every time I messaged him and he didn't reply it confused and distracted me because I thought it was something else, when clearly, it wasn't.
I learnt and am still learning to give every situation to God and to then be okay with the outcome - whether it is the outcome I wanted, didn't want or didn't expect.
God knew me before I was born, He knew the plan He had for my life and who He wanted in my life so I can't be upset or angry if someone leaves or never arrives.
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
-Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
I have a four stage strategy that I follow which I learnt from Pastor Toure Roberts (One Stop Church LA) about how valuable my "Yes" is.
My "Yes" to both people who I am inviting into my life and also to places/events I've been invited too. I try my hardest to not say yes to everything immediately and to ask myself these four questions first:
- Is it consuming my energy? Are you draining me instead of inputting into me? Are you worth it?
- The needs of my family and my church - I have PRIORITIES/RESPONSIBILITIES. Are you worth it?
- The financial upside, for example expenditure, savings etc. Is there a money connection? Do I spend too much whenever I spend time with you? Are you worth it?
- Is it in alignment with my present focuses/purpose? Are you worth it?
So before you allow yet another bundle of confusion and stress to roll his or her way into your life, mess everything up and then just leave. Ask yourself those four important questions!
If you're anything like me and think that attractiveness, good conversation and a good dress sense is enough to qualify your yes.. STOP! It's more than just that!
Does he/she input into you - spiritually, financially, physically? Can he/she speak life into you? Where is he/she headed, is their future something you want to be apart of? Are your present/future purposes in alignment?
If the answer to any of these is no, and like me you are just a ball confusion, then it may be time to re-evaluate the "ship"!
So, here is to complete peace, clarity and less confusion.
"For God is not a God of disorder but of peace-"
-1 Corinthians 14:33 (NIV)
Stay blessed,
Chid
x