Time is a precious gift. Everybody knows that.
The one thing you give away that you can never really get back.
So what does time have to do with how high your standards are in any given relationship?
I was recently in a situation where I had to really question how much I valued myself and my time.
One day after work, I was meant to be meeting an old friend/acquaintance whom I had not seen in a long while.
We hadn't properly set a time, but we both finished work at 18.00pm and conveniently we worked approximately about a 15-20 minute walk from eachother. We set an agreed meeting place and because it was closer to my place of work than his, I thought I'd be waiting maybe 25 minutes maximum.
Wrong.
I ended up waiting almost 40 minutes. I did not get a text/call/explanation as to why he was running late, even amidst the texts that I sent him.
By this point I was frustrated - there's only so many times you can walk around shops right?
So what did I do? I left to get the train home.
Some may say my behaviour was harsh - he certainly did. However, I've learnt a few lessons from my past and one being: I set the standards in all my relationships.
If your friends/family members/colleagues don't know your boundaries or your standards, then they will give you the respect that they think you deserve, not what you know you deserve.
Maybe leaving without even meeting seemed too extreme, but if I didn't communicate to him that I don't stand for lateness, (because who has time to waste time, right?) the next time it happened I'd only have myself to blame.
Standards are important.
Set them and establish them before others around you establish them for you.
Stay blessed,
Chid
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The one thing you give away that you can never really get back.
So what does time have to do with how high your standards are in any given relationship?
I was recently in a situation where I had to really question how much I valued myself and my time.
One day after work, I was meant to be meeting an old friend/acquaintance whom I had not seen in a long while.
We hadn't properly set a time, but we both finished work at 18.00pm and conveniently we worked approximately about a 15-20 minute walk from eachother. We set an agreed meeting place and because it was closer to my place of work than his, I thought I'd be waiting maybe 25 minutes maximum.
Wrong.
I ended up waiting almost 40 minutes. I did not get a text/call/explanation as to why he was running late, even amidst the texts that I sent him.
By this point I was frustrated - there's only so many times you can walk around shops right?
So what did I do? I left to get the train home.
Some may say my behaviour was harsh - he certainly did. However, I've learnt a few lessons from my past and one being: I set the standards in all my relationships.
If your friends/family members/colleagues don't know your boundaries or your standards, then they will give you the respect that they think you deserve, not what you know you deserve.
Maybe leaving without even meeting seemed too extreme, but if I didn't communicate to him that I don't stand for lateness, (because who has time to waste time, right?) the next time it happened I'd only have myself to blame.
Standards are important.
Set them and establish them before others around you establish them for you.
Stay blessed,
Chid
x